I'm now back to the point where I can blog again. I traveled with my family to my parent's home in West Virginia and then to Colorado to celebrate the end of 2004 with my wife's family. Part of my wanted to take my laptop with me, but a more urgent voice asked me to leave it at home. I'm glad I did. I spent more time relaxing, reading provocative works, and most importantly, spending time with my wife and girls. I also started to sketch again - a creative outlet that I left dormant for too long. The challenge will be to continue these new habits as I return to familiar settings.
Off on a tangent...I'm a member of Toastmasters International. Each meeting there is an inspirational opener and for last night's meeting a fellow coach read an excerpt from The Dance
by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. The reading focused on the idea of "just being enough" and I was hit by some provocative questions and thoughts.
Our culture exalts the over-achiever, the individual who painstakingly achieves a high level of self-improvement, the person who rises from a log cabin to public greatness. Its our driving myth of accomplishment and its also a cult. Next time you're at Barnes and Noble (or better yet, find an independently owned bookstore), take a look at all the books devoted to Self-Improvement
. There are so many self-help gurus out there telling us we can be more: more confident, more loving, more outgoing, more wealthy, more thin...well, you get the picture. It's all about more.
What if you and I are ENOUGH just as we are. Right now. We don't need to be MORE. How does this change our reality? We have enough love, enough money, enough self-worth. We can stop chasing after the illusion that MORE offers. Our wholesale buying into the ideals of ambition and upward mobility have not led to greater happiness. Unfortunately, for most of us, just the opposite. But like the mouse in the wheel, we keep running forward only to be stuck in the same place we started.
As I further listened to the reading, I quickly wrote a question: is improvement the same as learning? The answer I came to is no. It is possible to accept that we are enough and continue to learn at the same time. Learn more about who we are, not who we should be or who others want us to be. It's time to just grow to be enough.
Categories: c.Books; c.Learning; c.Living; c.Spirit